KILLING THE BOY TO BE
When I was 11 years old I desperately wanted to be a chimpanzee–so I could date Charleton Heston. When I was 16 years old I wanted nothing more than to be a wookie–I was really into Chewbacca. Science Fiction, identity, sex. The Science Fiction part is just me, so I will own that particular weirdness. But sex and identity are so closely interwoven so as to be indivisible. The formative years when the mind and body are developing into a sexual being are full of questions and complexities. Children often wonder what it would be like to be someone, or something else. This does not mean that they are someone or something else.
Children may be confused about who they are, what they want, and why they feel the way they do. These changes are natural and follow a predictable sequence. They are essential to the process of forming a healthy self image. And although a child will benefit from the loving guidance and example from parents and other adult figures, the child should not be persuaded to become entangled in the confusions that result from dis regulated hormones and simple curiosity.
A story broke today that a California lesbian couple raising a little boy, who is now 11, are giving him hormone blockers to delay the onset of his sexual development. They claim that the little boy has determined that he wants to be a little girl, and so they are giving him some time in a sort of “neutral” state to make decision about his sexual identity. Their doctor is proceeding with the sex-altering hormone therapy despite warnings that the little boy could suffer permanent and damaging side-effects from the drugs.
Calls of “child abuse” have rung out in response to the story of the lesbian couple and the little boy. The act of tampering with the normal emotional and physical development of a child is beyond child abuse. And in this case it is the equivalent of killing; the ruination of the life that the child would have without extraneous interference; the destruction of the life the child was meant to have.
Human potential is realized in our sexual potential. The furthest exertions of the self are embodied in our procreative powers. Bringing children into the world is the highest calling given to the offspring of God. Our identities are so wrapped up in that biological, sexual facility, that we spend our lives searching for the fulfillment of erotic bonding, and in raising the children that naturally result.
The doctor who is working with the lesbian couple to effectively kill the nature within their little boy is as culpable as the women themselves. This tragic story is an extension of left-over notions from the sexual revolution that there are no important differences between men and women, and that there should be no constraints on sexual expression or access to alternative selves and caricature lifestyles. Ultimately this story is a crime scene in which the precious, tender mind, and eternal nature, identity, and sexual potential of a little boy is being murdered in a fit of caprice.
Can the government prosecute the doctor dispensing the life and identity altering drugs? Can the lesbian pair be charged with child abuse? These are legal questions worth pondering. But this is a moral issue in which the right to life of a child is being threatened. To extinguish the self of a little boy who is beset with normal questions–likely exacerbated by the natural confusion of growing up in a home with a lesbian couple–is a deplorable act; the attempted murder of an innocent human’s very nature.
By Marjorie Haun 10/18/2011